Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Busy Mothers: Here is how you Make your Life Work

These days, it isn’t a new thing to see moms who are raising their children on their own working two to three jobs just to keep everything together. In the world today that is laced with crime, separation, anger, and lots of other things, losing hope and losing yourself is a high possibility. And when you are a mother trying to make ends meet, when you feel as if there is too much burden on you, it’s easy to lose yourself and lose hope that you can get through the circumstances plaguing you now. Busy moms usually find most of their days taken by work, hardly ever finding time to themselves or even to spend a good amount of time with their children. They are usually torn between the need to make a good life for their family, and the want to actually be a mother to her children. Such situations can lead to feelings of sadness and anxiety, and if you are a mother, you might feel that you are not fulfilling at least a good half of your obligations. This can lead you to hate what you do and to even feel mad at yourself for being so “lacking”. The truth of the matter is that for most busy mothers, the issue of time and earning a living for your family versus actually being present to mother your children is inevitable. One thing that can help you though is to understand the reasons why your situation is the way it is. Thinking positively and understanding that what you are doing is a good thing helps to ease the discomfort from such difficult set-ups. Here are some ways to help get you out of the dark hole: 1. Acceptance is the first step. Accept that your situation is a hard one but know that you can get through it, with God’s help. Do not be led into thinking that this is the way it will be forever. In time, things will change, but accepting the situation is the first step to change. 2. Realize the value of what you do. You are a mother caught up in a situation where you need to care for your family. Do not think that you are becoming someone irresponsible if you find yourself losing time for family because of work. Do not entertain the thought that your children do not love you, nor that they think you do not love them. Instead, help them to understand the reasons why you do what you do. 3. Do not be afraid of making changes. If you feel that your present situation is not the best for you, do not be afraid to step back and reevaluate. Find other outlets and means, explore your options. The most important point here is to use positive thinking. Accept where you currently are and channel your energies into trying to make the best out of it. Know that the changes can only start with you and your acceptance of the situation. Written by Carl Mathis, author of Life is What you Make it – Seven Steps to Moving Forward. Visit Carl’s website at http://www.carlmathis.com