OUT OF CONTROL

                                                         

                                                  

Out of control could also be the result of a premature decision made by a person, someone that did not take the time to explore all options, or just did not think before they acted. There is a particular story in the Bible about a father and son, which shows how out of control could be the result of making a decision to do something before the appointed time. In this story, you will get an idea of what not to do, while at the same time learn what to do.

The story goes like this. A young man made a decision to confront his father concerning the inheritance that his father had in place for him. This was a mistake the young man made. What the young man did not know was inheritance is exactly what the name said, inheritance, which means a person has to die for someone to inherit. However, if a person received the inheritance before the person dies, then it is not called inheritance. It could be called a gift, or a willing blessing with a portion of what’s to come in the future. That’s because inheritance is for future use, which will enable the person or persons to carry on their life.

This young man demanded that his father to give him his potion of his inheritance. He was not willing to wait for the death of his father. Was the young man a hot head, maybe so? Was he too anxious and think he knows it all, most likely. However, this is the case of an immature decision made with the intention of a selfish motive. When things like this happen, look out, because no good thing in going to come from a decision like that.  

                                                                                                                          

The young man’s father decided to give his son what he asked for. Was the father too soft and gave into his son? That’s a question I want you to answer.

However, the way that God works when it comes to you fulfilling His wills in your life, it sometimes looks confusing to the natural man. This is why the Bible says without faith it is impossible to please God. Never try to understand God and his thinking capability. Just obey His word by the guidance of the Holy Spirit and trust that He will lead you in the right path. So, by the father giving his son what he wanted, although it may look like the father, should not have done that, the lesson that the son will learn, surpasses what people may say about his father. The young man’s father had enough faith in God that he knows what the end result would be if God were involved.

It is through faith and patience that God’s promises are to be obtained. Patient conviction that God’s word is to be trusted will bring the believer through times of perplexity. So the young man’s father knew exactly what he was doing.

The young man took what his father gave him; left his father’s house, with another false intention that everything is going to be okay. The young man was partially right and a lot wrong. In other words, before this thing ever gets to be okay, he will go through a lot of pain, frustration and a whole heap of anger, which could have been avoided, if he would have obeyed his father. 

MOVING FORWARD AND NOT BACKWARD

The past is exactly what it is, the past. Its funny how, when we are driving on the freeway and we observe an accident on the said of the road, how the traffic seems to slow down, while the accident is already off the roadway. We past the accident, and yet we still looking in our rear view mirror at the accident. Why you may ask?

We tent to want to focus on the past instead of what’s in from of us. You can’t look back and looking ahead at the same time. It must be one or the other, if you are looking back, it will hinder the decision to make a quality decision toward your future.

Just like the driver of the freeway, if his/her head is turn to the back or fix on the rear view mirror, there is a great chance of causing an accident, when all you had to do was leave the past behind and concentrate on what’s ahead.

The past is only there to remind us how to make things better in the future. How to avoid making the same mistakes again or how to duplicate and make better what was done before. In other words, take a glance at the past when you need too and keep moving forward.

If you had a bad experience, and its long gone and forgotten, trying to remember it will only surface rage and anger and frustration. The Apostle Paul tell us in Ephesians 4: 26-27,  “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,  and do not give the devil a foothold” Don’t ponder on the anger, let it past, because it will take up resident.

Too often I see too many people wasting so many times on things that’s gone and never to return. Frustrating them and fighting a battle that they can’t win. The energy and time should be spending on building the future. However, to overcome keep looking back in your rear view mirror, you must stay focus on your goals. Only then you will see the accidents and incidents begin to get smaller and smaller. And before you know it all attentions is focus on what’s ahead of you.

Carl Mathis author of Life is What You Make it - Seven Step to Moving Forward

Life Is What You Make it

The Road to Leadership: Are these 3 things in you

Leadership requires wisdom. In all the knowledge that you may acquire, if you lack the wisdom how to carefully us it, then it will serve you no purpose.  

1: Get wisdom

 

“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you” James 1:5 (NIV)

 

Leadership requires self examination.  To be a good leader you first must have confidence in you. For example, you must see and walk in the good in you. If you don’t know the good in you, how can you teach what you don’t know, thus you will transfer what’s not good about you.

 

2: Live by the Spirit

“Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other” Galatians 5:22 (NIV)

To be a good leader you must have self control. You will ultimately face opposition to whatever you teach. How you handle those who oppose to your teaching will tell what kind of a leader you will be. You must maintain your composer even when you are challenge and put to the test about what you know.

3: Self control Life is What You Make It

“Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control” Proverbs 25:28 (NIV)

Carl Mathis, author of Life is What You Make it - Seven Steps to Moving Forward

KNOW WHEN TO RUN

Timing is one of the main keys of life success. This is why having faith and being patience is know as the how to please God. “Without faith it is impossible to please God” (Hebrews 11:6)

This is not an easily method to mastered, in fact it’s probably one of the most difficult of all the skills to master, nevertheless, it is one that you must control when pursuing your purpose.

Even with wise counseling and good advice, there are many people who will make a move before the right timing. This is cause due to being impatience and not wanting to wait any longer, but this can cause a major shipwreck in your life.

Your purpose is not something that just could happen over night, or a flick of a switch. You must look at the bigger picture. Don’t be to egger to go to soon. David said “I waited patiently for the Lord; and he inclined unto me, and heard my cry”(Psalm 40:1 KJV) Timing is everything.

As we look at how runners work so hard to master the starting of a race. They wait and listen patiently for the starting gun to go off before they make they move. Going to soon could disqualify them from the race, and going to late could cause them to lose. Ether way they will not be a winner.  So how can you avoid from moving out of timing.

1: Almost everything in life, there is someone who did it before. What you want to do is seek out that person or persons and ask the correct questions. So when you feel like you are waiting in vain or the timing is right for you to make that move, just to know the procedure can save you from making a big mistake.

2: Take the information you receive and use it as your stepping stone towards your destination. In other words, don’t over look what you receive as though you do not need it to survive your eagerness to jump the gun. Remember, they did what you attempting to accomplish. 

Too often we attempt to accomplish the impossible by ourselves, when they are people who did it before us. We keep a close mouth because we may think that we will be laugh at, but I say to you, there is no such thing as a dump question. I often here my Pastor say this in bible study. If you don’t know, and you want to know ask, the only dump question is the on that you neglect to ask.

“Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and you shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you” (Matthew 7:7 KJV)

 Life is What You Make it

Carl Mathis: author of “Life is What You Make it- Seven Steps to Moving Forward”

Christian Words of Encouragement: Busy Mothers: Here is how you Make your Life Work

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A NOTE FOR FATHERS: REMEMBERING YOUR DUTY

It all started with pleasure, you and her in enjoyment, red roses and candle light dinners, not thinking about the after shock. After many and many cuddles, and role-around in the bed under the street, you were not thinking about the result. However, you have now planted a seed. Your sperm have made contact.

First it was weeks, and then months and months while your seed in growing on the inside of the family’s body. You listen to the sonogram and gently massage her stomach in the midnight hour. You went along with the doctor’s visits. Then it was the ninth month.Here comes the manifestation of the seed that was sown. However, that was the easy part, which was the beginning stage into father hood.

After hours and hours in the delivery room, you were waiting patiently to become a father. Suddenly the cry from a baby, which said you are now the father of a healthy baby boy, or maybe it was a girl, o well, doesn’t matter. However, your pray have just been answered, a baby boy. The glow and the smile on your face revealed that you are happy and proud. This was a good beginning.

Then comes the early stage of providing for your son, you still hanging around, that’s good. Changing his pampers and rocking him to sleep was no problem. His first and second years was not bad at all, you could handle it. As years pass by, your son reaches the teenage age. This is the time he needs you the most, but you neglecting to do your most secret duty of the work.

This is when you teach and directed him in the right direction of a young man. Teenage years are the prime time to impart life integrity into young men, thus, they makes their own decision. Fathers must take responsibility for the young men who are lost due to neglecting fatherly duties. It’s never too late to do the work, so kept this in mind; life is what you make it.

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Busy Mothers: Here is how you Make your Life Work

These days, it isn’t a new thing to see moms who are raising their children on their own working two to three jobs just to keep everything together. In the world today that is laced with crime, separation, anger, and lots of other things, losing hope and losing yourself is a high possibility. And when you are a mother trying to make ends meet, when you feel as if there is too much burden on you, it’s easy to lose yourself and lose hope that you can get through the circumstances plaguing you now. Busy moms usually find most of their days taken by work, hardly ever finding time to themselves or even to spend a good amount of time with their children. They are usually torn between the need to make a good life for their family, and the want to actually be a mother to her children. Such situations can lead to feelings of sadness and anxiety, and if you are a mother, you might feel that you are not fulfilling at least a good half of your obligations. This can lead you to hate what you do and to even feel mad at yourself for being so “lacking”. The truth of the matter is that for most busy mothers, the issue of time and earning a living for your family versus actually being present to mother your children is inevitable. One thing that can help you though is to understand the reasons why your situation is the way it is. Thinking positively and understanding that what you are doing is a good thing helps to ease the discomfort from such difficult set-ups. Here are some ways to help get you out of the dark hole: 1. Acceptance is the first step. Accept that your situation is a hard one but know that you can get through it, with God’s help. Do not be led into thinking that this is the way it will be forever. In time, things will change, but accepting the situation is the first step to change. 2. Realize the value of what you do. You are a mother caught up in a situation where you need to care for your family. Do not think that you are becoming someone irresponsible if you find yourself losing time for family because of work. Do not entertain the thought that your children do not love you, nor that they think you do not love them. Instead, help them to understand the reasons why you do what you do. 3. Do not be afraid of making changes. If you feel that your present situation is not the best for you, do not be afraid to step back and reevaluate. Find other outlets and means, explore your options. The most important point here is to use positive thinking. Accept where you currently are and channel your energies into trying to make the best out of it. Know that the changes can only start with you and your acceptance of the situation. Written by Carl Mathis, author of Life is What you Make it – Seven Steps to Moving Forward. Visit Carl’s website at http://www.carlmathis.com